I don’t lead, I follow.

As kids, being line leader was only thee most important job. When did we stop wanting to be line leader and settle for following?

Did it happened in middle school when most of us decided that fitting in is much cooler than standing out?  Maybe being a leader comes with too much responsibility. What do you think?

I wonder what the world would be like today if people like Dr. King decided not to lead.

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A special thanks to Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. and President Barack Obama for continuing to lead.

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Thank you for reading. Dream big! xoxo

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3 Car Accidents In Less Than 1 Year. I’m Lucky!

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Minding my own business, then BOOM! Literally, two minutes away from home, I’m hit. Less than 3 minutes before impact, the other driver cut me off by making a right turn from the left-turn lane. Why was I surprised when she followed that up with driving into my lane and colliding with my car? Sometimes I wonder if Cracker Jack gifts licenses.

As calmly as possible, I exchanged information while processing what happened, as she apologized. I nodded and remained silent. My car has been hit three times in less than a year (insert unhappy emojis).

I sulked in my sorrow all day, like the Lakers when they lost Dwight Howard. Seriously! The accident happened around 12:45 a.m. I went to sleep and woke up at 7:30 a.m., then made a trip to IKEA for project therapy. I refused to answer/return texts or calls until about 6 p.m.  After, talking it out with two awesome friends, I got over myself.

The day before, George Zimmerman was found not guilty, so Trayvon Martin’s parents lost a child and received injustice in exchange. The family and friends of Cory Monteith also lost an irreplaceable creation.

Yes, I have a right to feel the way I choose. In the grand scheme of things, the accident is not important. My car can be fixed and even if it couldn’t, it is replaceable.  Letting the damage to a material object affect me the way it did is silly.

Each time my car has been hit, I’ve walked away with a drivable car and all limbs intact.  My side mirror, rear door and side panel have to be replaced but I’m good. I’m lucky because it could have been worse.

A Dedication to Trayvon Martin “Little Black Boy Wonder” by Omari Hardwick

Stay In Your Lane! Go At Your Own Pace.

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Music playing, curls blowing, I commute through the canyons from the city to the valley. Gorgeous views line my path, it’s easy to forget that I am where I am.

The other day, I found myself driving like a go-cart hugging the curves of the road trying to catch the car in front of me. On occasion, I sail like a cruise ship inhaling the scenery and living in the moment, but I speed up when the car behind me is in a hurry.

As I trailed behind the car ahead, a light blub came on. I remembered that when driving and in life, we have to go at our own pace and stay in our lane. I said to myself, “Self.” Myself said, “Huh?” I said “Do you! Stop worrying about everything else.” 

If I rush my journey to reach those in front or please those behind, I could fall off and they would still be on the road. We have to do what is best for us… there will always be someone ahead and someone behind trying to rush us.

*Please do not use the above as an excuse to slack or be content with mediocrity. I have witnessed “When one door closes, another opens” being used after and individual woke up behind schedule for a interview, then cooked a full-out breakfast instead of making it to the interview. We have to do better.

xoxo

Natural Hair, Beauty, Fashion & Entertainment Events

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There will be a giveaway soon, don’t miss it!!! In the mean time, check out the events below.

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We often get caught up in trivial activities of celebrities and forget to acknowledge significant accomplishments achieved by individuals we actually know.

Cue the confetti showers. Let’s take a moment to celebrate the Class of 2013. Congrats grads, you rock!!!

I’d like to shine a spotlight on a few awesome people I know. Check out a brief highlight of their achievements below.
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S. Dafney (top left)

Dafney graduates from King/Drew Medical Magnet High School in the top 25 percent of her class. Fall 2013 she will proudly sashay onto the campus of a four-year university and begin a new journey. Her major is undecided but her future is bright.

D. Gillett (top right)

Last week Gillett walked across the stage to receive her A.A. degree in child development from Los Angeles City College. The education she received there has prepared her for the Los Angeles Unified School District training she will begin in July. After completing L.A.U.S.D. training she will be able to work with children ages 2-5. Gillett plans to further her knowledge by pursuing a bachelor’s degree.

T. Gonzalez-Aird (bottom left)

Armed with a B.A. in Radio-TV-Film and minor in business administration, Gonzalez-Aird is on the hunt for a career in the entertainment industry. Once he lands, he will hit the ground running. His vision does not end there. Another stop on his path includes shooting a few amazing short films, music videos and commercials.

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Ms. Malone finished her undergrad semester with a bang! She carried a 17 unit load and earned A’s in every letter grade course. Malone moves forward holding a B.A. in mass communication and journalism with an option in broadcast from Fresno State University. How will she use her degree? Oh! She plans to write and edit for a major network equivalent to CNN or ESPN.

Cheers! We wish you all continued success.

For most of you, the road wasn’t easy and the one ahead will present more challenges. When you’re faced with a bump in the road, strap on your big girl/boy boots and take it one step at a time.

xoxo

 
 

Tyler Perry’s The Haves & the Have Nots and Love Thy Neighbor

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Fascinated with BFFs Tyler Perry and Oprah’s new partnership, I’ve patiently waited to check out the new projects on OWN.

Last week, I attended the press party for both series. The event, held at SLS Beverly Hills, featured brief teasers and a Q & A session with cast members. Forthcoming with behind the scenes deets, the casts seemed genuinely excited about their respective shows, so I eagerly awaited the air dates.

Yesterday, I watched the first two episodes of both shows and i’m ready to share my thoughts.

The Haves and the Have Nots is both Tyler and Oprah’s first drama. The premiere episodes definitely brought a boat load of drama. The issues are real and relevant, but there is a soap opera feel to the show.

At the press party cast members emphasized how this drama is much different from soaps that they previously worked on. As a viewer, that boundary is not so clear. I’m curious to see how the show progresses.

As for the comedy,  Love Thy Neighbor, it is the signature Tyler Perry that fans have grown to know and love. The characters are over the top, but authentic. The series ruptured with touchy topics including infidelity, independence and trust.

I hope that continually displaying real issues truthfully will start a shift towards us becoming better people. We realize how silly a situation/idea is when we are on the outside looking in, right?

Share your thoughts below or tweet me @kinkycurlsla.

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Upgrade You

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Whether it’s a career, job, relationship, friendship, health or fitness, don’t be afraid to upgrade.

Confession: I’ve allowed myself to accept less than I deserve and sat comfortably in a below great position. That’s not the person I am, nor want to be. I decided to give up good and go for great. Let’s do it together!

How to Upgrade You

1. Evaluate – Take notice of where you are and where you want to be. If you don’t know where you are and where you’re going, it’s easy to get lost.

2. Plan – Map out the steps you must take to reach your goals. Write a list, create a vision board and compose a outline. Having multiple visuals serve as constant reminders to keep you focused on your end game. Lists allow you a sense of accomplishment, each item crossed off brings you closer to your goal.

3. Execute – Fulfill the requirements of your lists, vision board and outline. Keep placing one foot in front of the other. It may seem that you are far away, but you can reach your goals. If you fall down, get back up. Remain consistent, positive, focused and work for what you want.